Welcome back to Riddles of the Wise! Hopefully you are enjoying this time with God, and feeling Him “renew your mind” towards wisdom. My name is Jessie, I’m the blonde gal you see giving announcements on Sundays sometimes at Golden. I’m happy to be studying with you today! Let’s dig in!
Today, we are in Proverbs 22.
Proverbs 22:11 says, “One who loves a pure heart and who speaks with grace will have the king for a friend.”
This verse caught my eye and immediately made me think of friends. Friendships are so important. When I was in my early twenties, friends were important to me, but it was mostly about how much fun we could have with each other. I picked friends who made me laugh, who were fun, and who liked the things I did. Like snowboarding and/or cracking jokes about our Psychology exams.
As I became older, and spent more time in ministry, I have realized how important it is to select the right people to surround me. I began to pick friends for different reasons. I started to look for friends who are loyal, loved God the way I wanted to, and were focused, driven, and “pure of heart”.
In this verse, it’s almost as if Solomon is doing the same thing. He’s saying: “(this type of person… pure hearted and graceful…) will be my friend.” This type of person will have a king (King Solomon to be specific) for a friend.
So I guess the first question is, what type of friend are you?
Are you pure-hearted? That word “pure” in Hebrew is tahowr, which means pure and ethical. It’s used a ton in the Psalms to describe David, and his pure hearted posture toward God. So when it comes to friendships, do you offer your friends love and kindness without any selfish motives? Do you speak with grace?
When we hang with our friends, what types of things come out of our mouths? Are we encouraging? Does the room get better with our presence? Do we speak life over people and not darkness? Being this type of friend, according to Proverbs, will attract godly and “kingly” people into your life.
The second question is, what types of friends are you choosing?
Years ago, I remembered hearing that you become like the 5 closest people to you. That phrase really stuck with me. If that is true, then we need to ask ourselves who would I like to be more like? And, then choose friends accordingly. We want gracious, loving, focused, strong, and pure-hearted friends! If they add much to your life, and bring you closer to God, hang onto them! Those types of people are king-level friends.
May your friendships be richer today than they were yesterday. And, may you offer your gracefulness to others in friendship today!
Have a great day!